Hi, Guest
08-17-2005, 02:01 AM
Until your friend sees for himself that he's got a problem (and it doesn't sound like he's there yet) any attempt on your part or others to present a "solution" will be seen as meddling - and you can be sure that she'll use that against you and ultimately against him.
There is either something in the relationship that he still values, or he is seriously lacking in self respect (and perhaps both) ... in either case for his sake your best bet is to remain a supportive and non-judgemental friend that will be there for him if and when he changes his mind about being with her.
IMO the last thing you want to do is put him in a position where he has to make a choice between your friendship and his relationship with her; that's her opportunity to isolate him even more from his friends and family. In fact, if you were capable of a little sleight of hand, you may even want to "befriend" her and stay close to the situation.
And, oh yeah ... been there, done that ... my brother did just what I described above. It took the death of my father and the witch's reaction to it to bring me to my senses.
There is either something in the relationship that he still values, or he is seriously lacking in self respect (and perhaps both) ... in either case for his sake your best bet is to remain a supportive and non-judgemental friend that will be there for him if and when he changes his mind about being with her.
IMO the last thing you want to do is put him in a position where he has to make a choice between your friendship and his relationship with her; that's her opportunity to isolate him even more from his friends and family. In fact, if you were capable of a little sleight of hand, you may even want to "befriend" her and stay close to the situation.
And, oh yeah ... been there, done that ... my brother did just what I described above. It took the death of my father and the witch's reaction to it to bring me to my senses.
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